I believe that we all come to a point when we have to make a decision that will have a profound impact on our life and those that are included in it. It may be a decision to change a job or a career, to get married, to have children, to go back to school, to leave our hometown or to leave a spouse or a partner. Many of us know what we want to do, but we are afraid to take a leap into the unknown. Fear of uncertainty holds us back. Advice from a trusted source is helpful, but ultimately, we have to make the final decision alone. How can we be sure that we are making the right choice? How do we know when it is safe to take a leap?
The short answer is that nothing is 100% certain, so we will never be sure if we are making the right decision at the time. The only way to find out is to decide and take a leap. What has to happen before you decide is to do what is called the “what if ” sequence. The what if sequence goes like this:
Ask yourself a question, for instance, “what will happen if I leave my job and I cannot find another one?” The answer might be “I won’t be able to pay my rent.” “What if I can’t pay my rent?” “I won’t have a place to live.” Then ask yourself, “what if I don’t have a place to live?” The answer, “I will be homeless.” “What if I am homeless?” “I will be a bum.” “What if I am a bum?” You get the idea, right? This will work for any major decision that you have to make.
You take it down to the last question and carefully considered answer that you feel or know that you can accept. If you know that you can accept the consequences that might arise from your decision, then you are ready to take a leap.
Remember, there are no guarantees about outcomes but the only way to know how things will work out is to try. So go ahead, question, decide and take that leap.